Weathering the Storms for 8 Years Now

November 10, 2009 at 2:34 am 14 comments

Scan10001Eight years ago today, Danny and I said “I do” under a hot desert sun and embarked upon a journey that had already been set off course by the events of 9/11 just two months earlier. Danny was immediately furloughed from his job as a pilot and called to active duty with his Air Force C-130 unit in Colorado Springs. He reported for duty as soon as we returned from our honeymoon in Lake Tahoe. He was to serve six months on base and six months abroad. As newlyweds, knowing we had to be apart for six months was torture, but we didn’t have to be apart the other six. And just like that, we were selling our home in Arizona to set sail for Colorado. The plan was simple: start over.

DSC00394_2By the time Danny’s year of duty was up, he had been called back to his job flying out of St. Louis for a commuter airline. What a relief! However, I was finding it wasn’t so simple to start your career up again in a new place where you knew no one, there was a recession on, and there were 200 applicants for every one job. Maybe we should’ve investigated this a bit more before we jumped ship back in the desert? There was only one thing to do. Move to St. Louis. And start over.

DSC00575Life was finally moving along. Danny no longer had to commute from Denver to St. Louis for work as he had been, and I found a good job in the city. We were ready to settle in and start our family. Apparently, Al-Qaeda was to have a say in this too though, because no sooner than we started skipping down the yellow brick road did Danny get called up again. Six months in Colorado Springs; six months in Qatar. One yearBaby Bird 005 away from me. We made it work. I found a new job as a contractor where I could set my own hours. I flew out to Colorado two weekends a month and just before Danny was to do a 3-month stint flying in and out of war zones in Iraq and Afghanistan, we got pregnant. And though he missed my first trimester, and we lived in two different states for the second, he was home for the third and most important part, the birth of our daughter in February 2007. What a great time to… START OVER!

DSC01827Reagan was just six months old when we moved back to Colorado. Danny had achieved his ultimate goal: to fly for Frontier Airlines. It was exactly one month between his hiring and our move, during which time Danny was in training in Denver while I sold the house, packed it and boarded a plane with our newborn. It was the most stressful time I had ever been through and I thought I was near having a nervous breakdown. Now I know that was only God preparing me for what was the real stress to come. On Reagan’s first birthday, Danny was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma. The reset button had just been pressed again.

If you’ve been following this blog, you know that Danny is now cancer-free and waiting to be cleared by the FAA to return to work at Frontier. The Air Force is deciding whether to let him re-train in a new position (read desk job) or declare him medically-retired as the chemotherapy damaged his heart to where he is now considered “undeployable,” and can no longer fly for them. After thinking I had retired from my career in graphic design to be a full-time mom, I was suddenly looking for work again as soon as Danny had recovered from his treatment and could care for Reagan.

IMG_2289While this may not be the life we planned on, we’ve learned to be thankful for our blessings amidst the storms. And, there have been many. The two biggest being the birth of our daughter and of course, Danny conquering cancer. We figure with as much as we’ve weathered together in this first eight years, it should be all smooth sailing from here.

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14 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Catherine @ Evolving Mommy  |  November 10, 2009 at 8:39 am

    Happy Anniversary and congratulations on making it eight years! It sounds like you have weathered some storms and that they have only made you stronger.

  • 2. Melissa  |  November 10, 2009 at 9:03 am

    Congrats! You two certainly have earned smooth sailing.

  • 3. Laura aka LaLaGirl  |  November 10, 2009 at 9:11 am

    Wow! I didn’t realize the two of you had gone through all of that. Happy Anniversary! Raising a glass for another fifty or so years.

  • 4. Kimberly @ Raising Olives  |  November 10, 2009 at 12:33 pm

    Happy Anniversary! Congratulations and praying for no more resets.


  • 5. emily  |  November 10, 2009 at 4:04 pm

    Congratulations. What a beautiful tribute to those eight years.
    Happy Anniversary.

  • 6. Lori in Denver  |  November 10, 2009 at 4:06 pm

    Your reset button has sure had a workout! I heard Frontier’s news recently and thought of you. Hopefully your button will remain untouched for awhile.

    Happy Anniversary! Are you spending it with US?

  • 7. Helen  |  November 10, 2009 at 7:13 pm


    You certainly have had a few prime opportunities to test the ‘for better, for worse’ part of those vows you took 🙂

    I hope the next 8 years are terrific!


  • 8. Pagebyrner  |  November 10, 2009 at 11:06 pm

    Great post, Chris. After all you guys have been through, how apropos to be Saints fans (smiley face emoticon here).

  • 9. Mama Bird  |  November 11, 2009 at 2:15 am

    Thanks for all the love! And, yes, Pagebyrner, I think if the Saints win the SuperBowl, it will make up for EVERYTHING! 😉

  • 10. Mary-Frances Main  |  November 11, 2009 at 9:41 am

    Wow, awesome and congrats – in my experience marriages become stronger when you go through a lot, but maybe it’s good for you guys to have a break, eh? 🙂

    Here’s to smooth sailing for the next 8 years!

  • 11. gretchen from lifenut  |  November 13, 2009 at 10:24 pm

    Your wedding pic is gorgeous!

    I hope you have fun celebrating tomorrow night (right?)!

  • 12. Shannon Russell  |  November 14, 2009 at 9:35 am

    OMG!!! Your wedding pictures are BEAUTIFUL!!! Your story touching…sad…happy….wow!

    You are a wonderful person and I wish you and your family nothing but the best!!

  • 13. Barb  |  November 16, 2009 at 2:20 pm

    I loved reading your story. You two have been through so much that you deserve two lifetimes of happiness 🙂

    Happy Anniversary! Loved your wedding photo!

  • 14. Aimee Greeblemonkey  |  November 30, 2009 at 10:04 pm

    What an amazing journey. Big huge happy anniversary to you both.


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