Jon & Kate Take the Easy Way Out

June 23, 2009 at 5:02 pm 10 comments

gosselinenoughWhile listening to Jon and Kate Gosselin say over and over again in last night’s TLC one-hour special episode of “Jon & Kate Plus 8,” that they were both “thinking of the kids,” while choosing the divorce route, not once did I hear mentioned that they had been to counseling. “We’re doing what’s best for the kids.” Are you? Do you really think that your kids want to be from a broken home? The two of you are really going to spend all the holidays together with your kids… together? Really? How long will that last once you both start dating other people and want to include them in your holiday celebrations? How’s that going to work? Is having both your parents and their boyfriends/girlfriends all together in the same room at Christmas really what’s best for the kids? Sorry to get so judgmental, but I was very disappointed to not see what I had hoped the announcement would be last night: “We’re going to end the show to work on our marriage.”

Instead, we learn that divorce papers were filed yesterday, June 22, 2009. Done. Wow. That was fast. No couch time with Dr. John Gray? I’m sure he’d be more than happy to donate his time like so many other “sponsors” of the show have for such incidentals as hair plugs, tummy tucks, teeth whitening, all-out kid’s days at you-name-it theme park or zoo. Not even some visits to your Pastor? Maybe some of this did happen, but you’d think they’d mention it. Since the Gosselins’ have chosen to share their faith on their show and how it has guided them in raising their children, should it not be guiding them now in their time of family crisis? Kate has written two books quoting Biblical scripture throughout, sharing her beliefs as the basis for how they raise their kids and building a very wide and deep Christian following as a result. I am shocked that they are now not checking themselves when they most need to and asking “what would Jesus do?” Doesn’t the Bible tell us that our marriage is to be put first and foremost before our kids? As parents, we are to be a model for our children to follow and a strong foundation upon which our kids can flourish, feel safe and loved. Destroying that foundation puts at risk a child’s fragile sense of security in the world. I kept waiting for them to say they were in counseling to repair their marriage…  waiting… waiting… waiting… DIVORCE! It seems too quick. Too simple. Too soon. Please don’t tell me you are “doing this for the kids!” That phrase was repeated so many times it started to sound like an annoying jingle I then couldn’t get out of my head. Is this something you are both now telling yourselves just to “make it okay?” Please excuse me for making presumptions, but, now that you are both financially free and already have your own lives apart from each other, isn’t this really just the easy way out?

Have Jon and Kate become so much like every other Hollywood couple now that even their eight kids aren’t enough to keep them together? My heart went out to Kate last night who seemed to be the only one in the marriage who was interested in saving it. I usually put my dukes up for Jon, but after hearing he’s not even interested in talking about their problems, there is no more defending him. No matter how emasculated he has felt since becoming a stay-at-home-Dad and seeing his wife in the limelight (see prior post here), there is no excuse for walking away from a ten-year marriage and eight kids because you feel you’ve “had enough.” Yes, Kate is overbearing and sometimes even unfairly belittles you, but, man up, Jon! Walking away only confirms that you are as weak as you appear on TV. Being that you are only 32, it is still possible that you may one day grow up and realize the 20-something life you may think you have missed out on… isn’t going to bring you the fulfillment you are seeking the way living up to your promises, being an honorable and dedicated husband and father will. Hopefully, when that does happen, it won’t already be too late.

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  • 1. The Informal Matriarch  |  June 23, 2009 at 5:41 pm

    ugh such a hard call cuz we don’t know what’s really going on behind the scenes. I do agree counseling would have been a good step…and perhaps canceling the show. I don’t think being on TV is in those kid’s best interests…ugh.

    • 2. Mama Bird  |  June 25, 2009 at 11:36 am

      It’s hard to imagine what being in front of cameras their whole lives like this will mean for them growing up. How will they cope if the cameras go away is yet another fair question to ask.

  • 3. Erin  |  June 25, 2009 at 11:17 am

    You go, girl! Couldn’t have said it better myself!

    • 4. Mama Bird  |  June 25, 2009 at 11:38 am

      Appreciate the props! Thanks, Erin!

  • 5. Amber's Crazy Bloggin' Canuck  |  June 28, 2009 at 5:03 pm

    I agree–the easy and sad way out. It’s so depressing how few people are willing to fight for their marriage…and kids…in today’s society!

    • 6. Mama Bird  |  June 28, 2009 at 5:24 pm

      Divorce no longer has any stigma attached, unfortunately. Without societal pressure to stay married, “’til death do us part,” has become optional.

  • 7. TrenchMommy  |  July 11, 2009 at 11:32 am

    Thanks for posting this! I too, could not have said it better. I have never watched the show but you can’t help but hear the buzz about them the past few weeks. I’m really sad about their choice and the negative impact it is/will have on the term “Christian”.

    • 8. Mama Bird  |  July 11, 2009 at 6:23 pm

      Unfortunately, yes, Christians are expected to be infallible. Christians in the public eye have the bar set so high for them that whenever proven to be just human it usually sets off a media firestorm. Surprisingly, I haven’t really heard that much from the media at all about their faith. I think the greatest impact it may be having is on the Christian following they once had.

  • 9. Jill  |  August 3, 2009 at 9:06 pm

    My thoughts exactly!!

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